You know what I’ve always felt the worst part about being a parent is? 

Not the endless tantrums, never-ending chores, or even the perennial lack of sleep… (those are bad, but I can push through them!)

It’s the constant self-doubt, and never knowing if I’m doing the right thing.

We’re always questioning ourselves as parents. 

Always wondering if we’re doing enough. 

Never sure of our actions.

And always replaying those times when we think we really “messed up”. 

We’re terrified that one misstep, and we’ve ruined our children forever (...and they’re going to end up homeless, living in their broken-down car, jobless, and selling drugs!)

Parenting is hella exhausting by itself, without adding in constant self-doubt that eats us up from the inside!

So we’re here today to share with you a revelation that’s transformed the lives of thousands of parents (and hopefully will transform yours too).

In one of our Academy masterclasses with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, we uncovered this TRUTH BOMB.

We don’t have to be the perfect, sorted, ‘have-it-all-together’ parent, for our children to turn out fine! We just have to show up in a safe, predictable way (even when we don’t have the answers)! 

(read that again, and let it sink in)

^^ 50 YEARS of rigorous research on secure and healthy children & adults stands behind this simple kernel of truth!

… Which means, you don’t have to beat yourself up every time you’re pushed past your limits, and blow your top at your child.

… Or question your entire parenting strategy when they have a complete meltdown in the middle of a routine grocery trip (while trying to ignore all the judgy stares thrown your way)

… And feel like you are failing as a parent because they’re screaming about how much they hate you!

Instead, it’s just the opposite. 

All the messy arguments, exhausting tantrums, and sudden tears are a part of growing up.

(They are similar to your child stumbling countless times before they learn to crawl, walk and eventually run.)

And you are here to help them learn how to handle their big, scary, overwhelming emotions! (Just as you supported them as they learned to crawl, walk, run.)

...By simply showing up for them!

All every child needs (and every adult too, if we’re being honest) in these overwhelming moments is to feel safe, seen, soothed, and secure in their relationships. 

So in the future, any time you are in doubt about your parenting choices, ask yourself this—“How can I bring my child back to THAT space of safety and security, so they can learn to handle this better?”

And let that be your ✨parenting north star✨, no matter what the situation is. 

It’s a simple concept but takes time to implement. 

But, don’t worry, you don’t have to stumble your way there. We’ve got you covered!

We’ve put together a quick guide with proven action steps + phrases to say + an example scenario to help you along.

Download Your Mini-Course Day #1 Guide Here

(Stick the printables included in the guide onto your refrigerator for the next time you need that little voice to guide you back to sanity.)

With you on the rollercoaster of parenting,
Sumitha

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P.S.: None of this means we need to be permissive parents who let anything and everything fly! Cooperation and discipline are still essential for a healthy parent-child relationship (and for our kids to grow up to be well-rounded, responsible adults). 

We’ve got your back, with 12 simple practices for positive discipline coming in tomorrow. 

Stay tuned 🙂