Hi there,

Many people believe that Positive Parents are zen-like souls who have a supernatural ability to remain calm no matter what’s thrown at us (metaphorically and sometimes physically!)

Or that we must be blessed with angelic children who never put a foot wrong,  so it’s no wonder we can keep it together so well. 

Ha! If only they could take a peek inside our homes! 

Usually, people believe that while these parenting techniques sound good in theory, they’ll never work for their strong-willed kiddo, so they’ve got to continue with punishments and strict discipline, or else their child will run amok.

The sad consequence of this misconception is that people only discover Positive Parenting when they’re at their wit's end.

They discover it when they’ve tried every possible traditional discipline technique to maintain some semblance of order in their house, and nothing seems to work, and nothing gets better. In fact, that often just makes things worse.

And all this tension, all this constant conflict, has strained their relationship with their child significantly. 

But it shouldn’t be left to be something you turn to after all else fails. 

Because the truth is, the sooner you embrace these concepts, the fewer “unsavory behaviors” you’ll see from your strong-willed kiddos, and the easier the transformation to calm and peace will be—for the whole household!

Had I discovered this simple truth earlier, my relationship with my daughter would have started so much smoother.

You see, we're just so similar, my daughter and I.

We're both… shall we say… very strong-willed, and that led to a lot of conflict.

By the time she was 3, we would have daily and sometimes hourly power struggles that frequently escalated to full-blown meltdowns.

I’d tried rewards, reasoning, threats, punishments, and even shame (much to my shame).

I tried anything and everything I could think of, but nothing would stick. I hate to admit it, but our go-to nuclear option to get her to do as she was told, was to threaten to lock her in the closet.

We would never carry through on the threat (which I suspect my smart 3-year-old figured out very early on), but one day, it all came to a head. My husband was out of town on business, and I had an important meeting to get to that I just couldn’t miss.

Of course, my daughter had other ideas.

She was in one of her uncooperative moods (that seemed to happen very often those days!), and the daily battle of wills began even before I could have my morning coffee.

She wouldn’t get out of bed. She refused to eat her breakfast. She clamped her mouth shut when I came at her with the toothbrush. She wouldn’t let me near her with a hairbrush. She wriggled and writhed when I was trying to get her dressed and refused to bend her arms to make navigating sleeves even a little easier for me.

I was getting later, and later, and was reaching boiling point until finally… I lost it.

I’d had enough and did the thing I never thought I’d actually do.

I dragged my little, uncooperative three-year-old across the room and yanked open the closet door.

When she saw that this time I was serious, she bucked and screamed and kicked like a wild animal before turning towards me, her face a mask of terror and her eyes full of tears.

And then, right before my eyes, the terror was replaced by a look of pure venom. Her expression contorted, and she spat menacingly and forcefully the words every parent dreads.

“I HATE YOU!”

I gasped as the realization of what I was about to do hit me like a slap to the face. 

How had we got here? How had our relationship broken down so far and so quickly?

I felt like I’d failed. I’d failed my daughter, my husband, and myself.

I’m not normally a crier, but the tears flowed that day.

It was clear something had to change, and we couldn’t go on like this.

I found my glimmer of hope after reading a lot of parenting blogs and books.

I discovered Positive Parenting. 

It was the lifeline I so desperately needed!

I tell the rest of this story and how we turned our relationship around in our new FREE training, How to Stop the Tantrums, Power Struggles, and Backtalk From Your Kids (Without the Guilt of Yelling and Punishment, or the Powerlessness of Giving Into Every Demand)

In it, I share the three secrets to positive parenting that can transform your relationship with your child and help you get your family back on track.

And for all you fellow parents with strong-willed kiddos who are still feeling a bit skeptical, Positive Parenting can work for you, and they will cooperate voluntarily without fighting back. 

But if you’re thinking, “Sure, but you haven’t met MY child…” then I invite you to give the training a try. It might just change your mind!

Click Here to Claim Your FREE Training Pass

Sumitha