Heya!

So we recently asked our community, what got them started on their positive parenting journey…

We got a ton of different responses. 

But there were two answers that popped up a heck of a lot more than the others.

“Because I’ve tried everything I know about ‘regular’ parenting, and it only made things worse for me and my child.”

And

“Because I realized that the traditional style of command-and-demand style of parenting (that I picked up from my parents) is not the way I want to raise my kids.”

For most of us, defaulting to criticism, threats, and imposing random consequences to get our kids to listen to us — doesn’t feel right. 

Especially when it comes to disciplining our kids...

Remember that time you yelled at your child and punished them big-time for being mean to their sibling? 

And then realized you just did to them exactly what you were trying to teach them not to do to their sibling?

It feels horrible, right?

The problem is, we can’t seem to find an alternative for discipline that doesn’t result in raising unruly, “spoilt” kids who have no self-control.

So that brings us to the question:

Is it possible to parent without harsh punishment, bribes, and threats of dire consequences and still have your child listen to you? 

Short answer: Yes.

Long Answer: 

Heck yes! Even if...

...you were brought up in a yelling-spanking environment yourself. 

...bribing and punishment are all you’ve done so far. 

...And even with the rebel child (who you believe is on a secret mission to drive you mad by disagreeing with every. single. word you say).

And it’s been done by thousands of parents, who’ve raised beautiful, happy, well-adjusted young adults without any of the negativity and pain.

How - you ask?

We offer to you ideas from Judy Arnall’s life-changing ‘Positive Discipline Tools’ Masterclass from our Academy.

Her principle is simple:

When you teach your children discipline by nurturing them and collaborating with them, you teach them the value of respect and open communication. You build deeper connections with them, and in the long run, they feel internally motivated to behave well. 

(As opposed to punishment which only temporarily works, but invites more defiance and misbehavior in the long term. In fact, it breaks their trust and damages your connection.)

So the next time your child is acting all outta whack and refusing to cooperate with you... attempt to resolve the issue with collaborative problem-solving.

To help you get started, find Judy’s Simple 4-Step Process for Collaborative Problem-Solving in today's toolkit.

Plus as a li’l bonus, we’ve added a printable with 12 effective positive discipline techniques that you can use to take your “discipline-nurturing” to the next level.

Download Your Day #2 'Positive Discipline' Toolkit Here

Be sure to stick these printables somewhere visible. Use them as a quick guide every time you need to bring ‘cooperation’ back on the table.

Taking it one step at a time,
Sumitha

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P.S.: ‘Positive discipline’ needs us to stay calm and intentional even when we are triggered. If that seems like a big ask, or if you find yourself “blowing your top” sometimes - then stay tuned for tomorrow’s segment of this parenting mini-course! 

We’re coming in hot with 10 proven strategies for you to keep your calm and avoid yelling your head off (even when you’re triggered).