Hello again! 

So, it's Day #3 of the mini-course, and we're getting to be friends.

Do you feel ready for some brutal honesty? 😃

It’s not always our children that need to learn better habits / to behave better...

How many times have we caught ourselves yelling our heads off at our kids? (usually over something that in retrospect, is not so world-ending!)

You know those times when you’re already 

… holding on to your sanity by a few flimsy strands, 

… hoping to somehow make it through the next hour. 

… And your child picks that exact moment to push just one more button (maybe intentionally, or maybe even accidentally)

And you just snap!

You morph into someone you don’t even recognize

… even when you see your child flinching at the sound of your voice

… and there’s naked fear in their eyes

… and instead of softening you, it eggs your angry ego on to yell even more

But, the worst is often after all the yelling is done. Isn’t it?

When you’re physically and emotionally spent and finally feel your sanity return...

And the horrible post-yelling guilt starts to creep in through the silence

… and you feel like you’ve failed as a parent. Again!

Now, we agree, yelling isn’t the healthiest response for you or your kids. 

It may work temporarily, but it never builds cooperation, or really resolves the issue at hand… It just leaves everyone hurt, resentful, and feeling totally cruddy.

But, beating yourself up over it after, will not get you anywhere either. 

Remember, you might be a parent (and the “adult in the relationship”), but you’re human too. 

It’s okay to mess up or lose control sometimes. You can forgive yourself for it.

You’re. 👏 Not. 👏 Perfect. 👏 

And accepting that is the first step to changing the habit. 

Because that’s what yelling is. 

It’s a habit. 

It’s NOT “who you are” as a parent. 

(Unapologetically ignore anyone who tells you otherwise. Even if it’s yourself.)

And like any other habit, it can be changed (with the golden trio of practice, commitment, and the right tools).

The “right tools” being the key here.

Expecting yourself to stop yelling with no tools to help you, or a system to support; is like expecting a baby to start walking overnight by themselves!

But it doesn’t have to be complicated tools, or full-blown therapy (in most cases). 

We dug into our Academy archives for golden insights and shortcut tips from a former yeller Sheila McCraith. 

Why Sheila?

Because apart from developing playful tools that have helped thousands of parents, including myself, stop yelling at the slightest trigger…

Sheila has managed to go from being a serial red-in-the-face yeller, to not yelling for a record-breaking 520 DAYS (with 4 young boys that too)!

Her secret? 

A simple 3 stage guided process to help anyone get some control over their habit of yelling…

And we’re sharing that very same process with you in today’s guidebook (along with some shortcuts to make it even easier)!

Download the guidebook below to learn:

Stage 1: 3 essential mindset shifts you need to get started on this journey

Stage 2: 3 core triggers that cause you to yell + how to overcome them

Stage 3: 10 incredibly effective techniques for your “Fallback System”. 

(They’re so simple a 3-year-old could do them, and so fun they will want to!)

Download Your Day #3 Guide To Breaking The Yelling Habit Here

And remember changing a habit takes time. (Especially when it involves emotional triggers that need to be resolved)

So be patient with yourself, as you would with your child.

Cheering you on every single day,
Sumitha

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P.S.: While reducing your yell-time is a great way to minimize the communication gap between you and your child... 

What if I told you there was a proven strategy that increases your connection with your child and helps you influence them to make better choices?! 👀 

Keep your eyes peeled for the secret strategy, dropping in in tomorrow’s email. See you soon.